Finding the Perfect Stone For the Perfect Partner
You’ve searched for the perfect partner, the perfect setting and the perfect words to make your marriage proposal special.
Getting down on on one knee and popping the magic question is hard enough, but finding the perfect ring, set with a sparkly diamond is even tougher. The search for an engagement ring may seem daunting, but with these step-by-step instructions there is a light at the end of the tunnel. You’ll be able to find the ring you dreamed about for that special moment.
Educate yourself – The 4 Cs
Start the education process by studying the four Cs. “Understand how diamonds are rated and categorized,” says Brian Gavin, an internationally known diamond expert and president and founder of BrianGavinDiamonds.com.
The four Cs refer to carat, clarity, cut, and color, and by understanding each, Gavin says, you can determine which is most important to you and then start shopping. “This will also help you determine how much you’re willing to spend,” he adds.
Get input from the fiancée
Find out what she wants. Gavin says, “It’s better to be safe than sorry.” Take her to a jewellery store – that is, if marriage has been a topic of conversation and a surprise engagement is not on your agenda.
“Have her try on as many rings as possible,” suggests Gavin. “Make her look at every shape of diamond and variety of setting.” Another way to measure whether she prefers oval-shaped over princess cut is have her look at bridal magazines like “The Knot” or “Brides” or at an online diamond expert’s site like BrianGavinDiamonds.com. “Either way, you’ll know exactly what will make her swoon when you pop the question,” says Gavin.
If you’re being discreet, look at the jewelry she wears each day ; is it classic or antique in style? Is she likely to wear larger pieces or dainty? The other option is to ask someone close to her, like a sister or a best friend, for help .
Let’s talk carats (a.k.a. size)
According to Gavin, as soon as you’ve decided shape, you need to look at the carat or size of the diamond; carat is how diamonds and other precious gemstones are measured—in “carat” weight. One carat, for example, equals 1/5 of a gram.
“We also refer to carat in points,” says Gavin. “There are 100 points in a carat and as points or carats increase, so does the price of the diamond.” For example, the price per carat will be less for a .90 diamond than the price per carat for a 1.00 diamond even if the color and clarity are the same. “Determining the size of the diamond, and then the cut and color is really going to help establish your budget parameters,” he says.
Pick your color.
“Color is the third most important criterai in the diamond selection process,” says Lesley Harris, senior Vice-President for BrianGavinDiamonds.com. Diamond color is graded according to the Gemological Institute of America or GIA Color Grading Scale – D being the whitest, and N and below color ratings showing noticeable yellowish tones. E and F have no obtrusive color tones to the naked eye, and from G to J range, diamonds remain near colourless. However, from J to M, you do begin to see a wispy trace of yellow.
Brian Gavin Signature Hearts and Arrows, an exclusive brand of Hearts and Arrows diamonds available only through BrianGavinDiamonds.com, range in color from D to I. Because of their superior cut, Brian’s Signature Diamonds ‘face-up’ appear whiter than their lab-assigned grade. “A great cut improves the apparent color of any diamond,” says Harris.
The cut – make and sparkle
Cut is the most important and perhaps the most misunderstood and controversial of the four Cs. “It’s about more than the shape of a diamond,” explains Gavin. “When we talk cut, we’re talking about the exact angles, proportions, symmetry and polish that impact the way the diamond reflects light and sparkles.”
Diamond dealers also refer to cut as “make” – as it is the only aspect of a diamond that can be controlled by man, and it must be exact. Each facet – or small plane surface on the diamond – must be cut to align perfectly with the facet opposite it. “There’s not much room for error,” says Gavin, “because this affects the diamond’s ability to sparkle, or what we call in the industry—brilliance.”
Clarity - Mind clean is more important than eye clean!
Gemologists use a grading scale set forth by the Gemological Institute of America (GIA) to determine a diamond’s clarity – how clean the gem appears when viewed through a magnifier . Most diamonds contain some “inclusions” – crystalline fractures or irregular crystal growth.
The GIA’s Clarity Grading Scale ranges from Internally Flawless (IF) through Included (I3). Flawless (F) and Internally Flawless (IF) being the highest, with the next best grade being VVS1 and 2 or very slight inclusions followed by VS1 and 2, referring to very slight inclusions, which according to Harris, “are difficult to see even with magnification.”
SI1 and 2 diamonds will have slight inclusions, which are easily seen through magnification, but may remain clean to the naked eye, depending on the particular diamond. Harris says grades I1, I2 and I3 indicate inclusions that are visible under magnification and also to the naked eye.
“The clarity of the stone you purchase will depend on your level of ease and budget,” he says. His advice: In the end of the day, however, even if a stone is eye clean, the customer should feel 100% comfortable with his/her decision, a.k.a mind clean.
Establish a budget and stick to it
After determining the four Cs, you should be able to set a budget or at least have a figure in mind. The general rule of thumb is to set aside two months worth of salary. “If you’re hesitant to set a dollar amount, look at your options in diamonds and settings to get a general idea of what you’d like to spend,” advises Gavin.
Select a jeweler either online or in your locality
You have more options than the local jeweler around the corner. There are independently owned boutiques, national chains and, now with the Internet revolution, online diamond boutiques like BrianGavinDiamonds.com.
No matter whom you buy from, make sure the jeweler is reputable and affiliated with the American Gem Society (AGS). “If you’re unsure of the jeweler’s credibility, check with the local Better Business Bureau,” suggests Gavin. “You can also test how knowledgeable the staff is about diamonds, look into customer reviews and look over the company’s return and repair policies … this is important.”
Time to shop! Grades and fingerprints
Before you place the order, make sure that you will receive a grading report with your purchase. “If a grading report will not accompany your diamond, make sure the sale is contingent upon an independent appraiser’s opinion,” advises Gavin.
Another option is to ask for a fingerprint of the diamond. This is a cubic drawing of the diamond indicating the four Cs, along with the stone’s overall dimensions and enhancements. Inclusions and blemishes should be noted. “As soon as you receive the diamond, double-check all of the info, including the bill of sale and drawing to make sure that it is, in fact, the diamond you purchased,” finishes Gavin.
Time for a setting
If you purchased a loose diamond, you’re now faced with the setting. And, like diamonds, the options are endless. Consider pave side stone settings, a solitaire or a custom engagement ring.
Both Gavin and Harris suggest allowing four to six weeks before popping the question if you go the handcrafted route. If you’re simply lost in the decision making process — propose with diamond in-hand and select the ring later — together!
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